This week I'm driving all the way across the country. My creative sabbatical in Atlanta, GA has wrapped up and I'm headed back to the Pacific Northwest to nestle into a new life on Orcas Island, WA. I'm really excited about it and this week's Peep Show is all about how much I gain from these long road trips. There's something magical about being in the midst of big horizons...
Today we have the joy of speaking with Sarah Jane, an artist who knows a lot about holding space for people to be tender and brave. I know this to be true because of my own experience with her. Sarah Jane is currently on staff at the arts organization where I had a 6-week artist residency just after I had been diagnosed with my essential tremor. Those 6 weeks were really hard for me - in so many ways - and Sarah Jane (and the rest of the staff at the Grunewald Guild) did so much for not only my career, and artistic expression, but also my personhood. They gave me permission to not have things figured out all the way. Those 6-weeks held some of the beginning threads of this very podcast. Today Sarah Jane and I talk about all that. How do you know when to act after you've been in a season of waiting? How do you know when you're too tender to be brave and still safe? How do you bounce back from rejection? I'm so proud of her and her work and I'm really honored to introduce you to her today.
I faced a looooong to-do list this week, which is why today we're looking at why it's so important to celebrate and connect, even with the small stuff. Our seasons of bravery sometimes BEG us for this and I know that sometimes those really dark seasons of bravery make it really hard to reach out and connect with folks. But it's sooo soooooo soooooo important that we do this. Take a listen and learn how I did that this week.
Today we get to talk with Joshua Spodek. I was super excited to jump into this conversation because Joshua is an Adjunct Professor at NYU, leadership coach and workshop leader for Columbia Business School, columnist for Inc., founder of Spodek Academy, and author of the book "Leadership Step by Step." He holds five Ivy League degrees, including a PhD in Astrophysics and an MBA, and studied under a Nobel Prize winner. He helped build an X-ray observational satellite for NASA, co-founded and led as CEO or COO several ventures, and holds six patents. Joshua has visited North Korea twice, swam across the Hudson River, and has done burpees every day for six years and counting. You're gonna need to buckle up for this conversation because Joshua and I jump directly into the deep water of asking the question how do we change the world as leaders. We discuss why facts don't help, why guilt is not the answer, and why authoritarianism is equally ineffective for changing the world.
I've given some crazy wonderful announcements this week and my brain is going ALL over the place, so here we are at the end of this week and I'm really wishing I had done this one thing more: expression, for the sake of expression. Take a listen to this week's Peep Show episode to find out what I mean and why it's so so important to me.
Today's guest Nina Ferreyra works with women entrepreneurs who want to get clear on their branding and business goals. I wanted to have Nina on the show today because she and her husband are doing something really brave. They're going to be living part-time in another country! Spain, to be exact. There is so much that goes into someone actually doing this. We chat about the imagination required to envision a whole new life for yourself. We talk about the "upper level limits" and the way our bodies physically handle new seasons of change and stress. We talk about how important it is to have a balance between mind, body, and spirit - especially during these seasons of bravery.
This week I was asked to write an article for Teach Well all about setting difficult boundaries. I know that many of us creatives and entrepreneurial types have to deal with this topic a LOT in business. But even as just a human you have to set boundaries. So that's what we're talking about today. I've identified 7 steps you'll need to take to set, hold, and enforce a difficult boundary (with a bonus 8th step.)
Today's guest is Troy Anderson, who's the Founder and International Director of Speak Up and splits time between Bangladesh, Thailand and the USA. Prior to founding Speak Up, Troy graduated from the UCLA School of Law and worked as a Deputy District Attorney with the Los Angeles County DA. He has spent the past eight years living and working in Thailand and Bangladesh with Speak Up. Before law school, Troy graduated from the University of Puget Sound and worked for 7 years with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship in Washington. Troy grew up in four countries outside of the United States, has visited nearly 50 countries, and is called Uncle by thousands of girls in Bangladesh. I'm so excited for you to hear all he has to say about bravery, and how brave the people he gets to work with are, and how much bravery education requires.
I got LAID OUT with a cold earlier this week and was confronted with some honesty that changed a few things for me. So that's what this week's peep show is all about: regaining control of the brake pedal, taking your foot off the gas pedal, and making decisions that require projects to either come to a full stop or get postponed.
Kamila Gornia joins us today from San Diego! She's a digital marketing strategist for business owners who want to learn how to market themselves online. We also veered off into left field because one of the area's of life that Kamila is personally experiencing a new kind of Bravery is Online Dating. yeesh. Now, this, this is bravery, in some of the rawest form. It's something I've spent a lot of time thinking about. Putting yourself out there and literally asking folks if they like you or not is such a huge thing! It's scary. There's a lot of rejection. Our emotions can end up scrambling how all the of factors interact with each other. It can be a hot mess, and in turn make us feel like a hot mess too. What I loved about this really honest conversation with Kamila, is that even though we were chatting about online dating, the topic of business was never far off. Because just like dating, running a business and being creative involves putting yourself out there in a big way.
This subject was brought up this week by a Bravery Student of mine. She's a creative and someone caught her off her game. Their comparison comments messed with her groove, so her question to me was "What do I do now that I've begun to second-guess myself?" The whole situation pushed my Mama Bear buttons and today's peep show episode covers my official answer to that question...
Nathan Vass is with us today! He is a filmmaker, photographer, writer, and he's balances all that with his love for another profession: Public Transit. Nathan is a bus driver for the City of Seattle! Today, Nathan and I talk about the crazy stories and intimate exchanges that happen between participants in public transit. We chat about what it's like to have a day job or side hustle that has seemingly nothing to do with your "real" hustle. We also talk about the small tiny changes that serve as the invitation for bravery in a given moment. We talk about comfort zones and how to put yourself out there as an artist. Please join me in welcoming the beloved Nathan Vass.
When you're putting yourself out there, things can get scary and overwhelming. But one of the best "mantras" I've adopted in the last several months is this: I have helpers. I've seen over and over again that helpers really are all around us. We just have to look for them. So that's what we talk about on today's peep show mini episode of Bare Naked Bravery: All my favorite go-to sources to find my helpers!
Christine Eilvig is with us today all the way from Denmark! She's a spiritual mentor with some radiant wisdom. Christine joins us to chat about her full-circle journey of her self-employed career from the business world to the spiritual, back to the business, and now back to the spiritual. This episode will be particularly good for you if you've got some part of you or some piece of work that you haven't yet revealed to the world and know that that day will eventually come. I really love Christine's soft and nurturing approach to doing brave things. I think you will too!
At the time of recording this little peep show & mini episode, I was really overwhelmed. Like *scared* overwhelmed. I turned to my favorite ways of refocusing myself and regaining my sense of power. So that's what I divulge in this little peek behind the curtain of the bravery I am facing first-hand.
There is so much in today's conversation with author Ian Cron that I was kinda giddy to talk about. Along with Suzanne Stabile, Ian Cron co-wrote the book titled "The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery." If you're gonna take a big scary leap into doing something brave, it helps to have as many tools as you can. It even helps to have those tools after-the-fact to understand, from a new perspective, why or how events or relationships in your life have unfolded. As Ian later goes into, The Enneagram is not the end-all, be-all for being brave or even knowing yourself. It is one facet. However, it is a fascinating facet - kind of like this conversation with author Ian Cron.
Feeling discouragement, apathy, dissatisfaction and general ickiness is the least fun thing I can think of. When we're feeling really stagnant in life, there are some pretty reliable methods I personally turn to when I'm in a funk. That's what this episode is all about!
Today we have a global advocate for adoption with us. If you've ever felt somehow that you don't quite belong or don't quite have a voice in a situation, then this is the episode for you. As an international adoptee herself, Michelle's story of adopting 2 of her 3 kiddos is soft and powerful all at the same time. She has been inducted into the New Mexico Women’s Hall of Fame in 2006 and was honored with the Governor’s Award for Outstanding New Mexico Women by Governor Bill Richardson AND she is the recipient of the 2004 Congressional Angels in Adoption Award. I took the opportunity to ask her a few questions about our political environment today regarding borders and the media. Michelle has a super insightful perspective which I know you will enjoy immensely.
It's true. Just because you're resting, does not mean you're procrastinating. Rest is not avoidance. Sometimes rest is the single most powerful method of 1) recognizing that what you thought was "flow" was just busy work and 2) discovering the next best step.
Today we get to talk with John Ruhlin of The Ruhlin Group. His company is trusted by all these top leaders of fast-growing companies (Chicago Cubs, San Antonio Spurs, Morgan Stanley, DR Horton, and more) to develop relationships and gifting strategies. Whether it's a hand-written note, or a small thoughtful token of gratitude or even a super fancy expensive gift, being generous with your gratitude always works. Always.
Indecision (and too many decisions) can freeze us, lock up our progress, and create big time avoidance and resistance towards accomplishing a big brave task. Creatives fall victim to this for so many valid reasons. In this peep show mini episode I show you how I walked through this kind of speedbump with one of my Bravery students this week
The story and the importance of advocating for the victims and survivors of trauma is near and dear to my heart. Anyone who has gone through what she has gracefully overcome is someone I want to talk with and in turn, someone whose bravery I want to share with you all.
Today you'll hear Nomi and I unpack some of her bravery and the specific elements that contributed to her own strength of healing from childhood sexual abuse. As a body therapist, latin dancer, and fashionista, you can tell that Nomi relies heavily on the creativity of movement to learn, integrate or express anything.
There comes a season when waiting is no longer an option. And then you're left with a) the knowledge that action is the next step and b) the task of acting. They're two separate things. I, myself, have gotten caught up in the knowledge speed-bump - especially this last week.
Today we get to chat with Calvin Correli. He's the instigator of a software company called Simplero, which is a super rad tool for people who want to do what they do online in a streamlined way. Although it's a really great tool, today Calvin and I begin our conversation on the subject of "What is Spiritual Entrepreneurship?"
Saying yes (or no) to something can make you crazy, especially if you're like me. I love to say yes. I love to do ALL THE THINGS. But lately, I've seen a personal turning point arise. It's time to start saying no to things.
But HOW??? That's what today's Peep Show episode is all about. Take a listen.
I am really excited about our guest today, because he's a good friend and fellow musical troubadour. Bradford Loomis is a powerhouse of vocal chords and an impressively well-spoken songwriter based out of the Pacific Northwest, which is how I first got to know him.
Rather than just doing the usual "Tell me about your new album" kind of interview, I took the opportunity to ask Bradford some really hard questions about his career. (He in turn, asked me a whammy of a question too and my answer really took me by surprise.) Bradford and I discuss how to turn the mundane into meaningful, how we can carve our career to fit our lifestyle, and because I really am stoked about his new album, we do get into the backstory of his album which involves strong ties to his father who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's.
I hope you get as much out of knowing him as I have.
I've had some experience in the realms of addiction. I've also more recently had some experience with the serious let-downs of being addicted to the false sense of high that comes from setting big dreams and big goals for yourself.
This Peep Show episode is all about that. And like all the other Peep Show Episodes on Bare Naked Bravery, this episode exists to give you peep behind the curtain in my life around the ways I am personally experiencing bravery on a day-to-day basis...
This is going to be a fun day on the show. We've got the Australian fireball that is Amber Hawken with us today. You're gonna love this. She is the perfect person to talk about "How to be Unfuckwithable" because she's just released a book of a similar title: "the Unfuckwithable Life"
And yes, as you guessed from the title of this episode, there most definitely will be a significant amount of cussing in this particular conversation, so do what you need to do to prepare yourself to have a lot of fun.
Becky Mollenkamp is with us today with a really powerful story and set of tools for us. Becky runs a business doing content creation for other small businesses and today she shares with us what it was like to lose a younger sibling to bi-polar disorder and a subsequent heroin overdose. Understandably, this life event ravaged her life and her business. But as you'll learn later on in her story, that experience prepared her for the other inevitable moments of bravery, like going through a miscarriage.
This week is my birthday. I will be 31 years old. I cannot imagine what my life would look like if I dropped out of school to get married at the age of 8.
To honor the education and experience I've been granted in my 31 years, I'm donating $31 every month this year to speakupforthepoor.org -- They serve over 1100 girls in 26 villages, helping them stay in school and out of child marriage, and they fund more than 20 girls removed from brothels in Bangladesh.
There is no greater human rights issue than the way we treat girls in poverty. They deserve to be heard, to be educated, to have options, to have dreams.
If you are inspired by the work I do and want to celebrate 31 years of living bravely with me, then I challenge YOU to sponsor a girl's education for $31/month.
Let's make it happen. Let's transform these girls into what we know they can be, perhaps things they don't yet have permission to dream about...